The Law Of Detachment

In this episode, Laura explores the transformative concept of the law of detachment in the manifestation process. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of control and trusting the universe to deliver what is meant for us. Through personal anecdotes and practical insights, Laura illustrates how attachment can stem from fear and scarcity, while detachment embodies trust and abundance. The episode provides tools for you to shift your focus from lack to gratitude, ultimately enhancing your manifestation journey.


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Laura Livermore (00:02.178)
Welcome back to the Mind Body Manifest Podcast. I'm your host, Laura, and today we are diving into a concept that might just be the missing piece in your manifestation journey. Today we're talking about the law of detachment. And when we talk about manifesting your desires, really a lot of emphasis is placed on

having clarity on what you truly want and taking action and getting in alignment with your desires. But we often forget about the power of letting go. And that is really where the magic truly happens is in the law of detachment. So I'm going to share with you a personal story, offer some practical insights and give you some tools to help you shift from the energy of lack to the energy of trust. All right, let's dive in.

So what is the law of detachment? What is detachment and why does it even matter? Well, detachment is not about getting, like giving up on your goals. It's not about giving up on your desire. When people say, okay, you need to detach and let go of the outcome, it doesn't mean you're just stopping what you're doing and giving up on it. It really is about releasing your need.

for it to happen in a certain way or in a certain timeframe? How often do you get very attached to having exactly what you want in the certain way that you think it's going to happen and in a certain time? I know I've been there many times before where I get very attached to needing something to happen in a certain way or to be a certain way. And when you are attached to an outcome,

You're in lack energy. You're in this energy and this mindset of, need it now. I don't have what I want and I'm not gonna be happy until it happens. And this energy just signals to the universe that you don't have what you want, which just creates more energetic resistance. I don't have what I want. And you attract

Laura Livermore (02:22.05)
whatever it is that you are, whatever energy and vibration and frequency that you are on is what you attract into your life. So when your focus is on, I don't have what I want. I'm not going to be happy until I have it. Guess what you're attracting into your life. Just resistant energy towards what you want.

So attachment often stems from this fear that you won't receive what you desire, or it's a scarcity mindset that tells you this opportunity is your only shot.

But on the flip side, detachment is about embodying trust. Trusting that you already have everything you need. That you already are the person that's gonna receive it. Embodying detachment is like, I'm good whether it happens or not.

Laura Livermore (03:24.194)
When you are detached from the outcome, you trust that the universe will deliver either what you're asking for or something better, something better. Sometimes we don't get what we want because something better is on the way. So we just have to let go of this idea that it has to be a certain way. Trust is rooted in the belief that abundance is always available and what is meant for you will never

miss you. The law of detachment helps you stop second guessing yourself and trust that everything is working in your favor. It's really about letting go of the need to control. So not just the need to control the outcome and need for it to happen in a certain way and need for it to happen by a certain amount of time. Letting go of the need can

to control can also be about stop trying to control other people or other people's perceptions of you. So this is, can also be about people pleasing. That's what people pleasing really is. It's rooted in the need to control other people's perceptions of you. It's like saying, I need to please you so that you like me.

I need to please you, I'm going to do whatever you want in order to gain your approval. When you're overly attached to other people's approval and perceptions of you, that's really a form of manipulation. I know, it's weird to think about it this way because I used to be such a people pleaser. When I realized that it's really about this fear that I'm not enough,

And then if I don't please them, then I won't be liked. All of that energy is, is just attracting more types of relationships that I don't want to have. So people pleasers tend to attract other people that will exploit that. So if you are a people pleaser, you're basically putting out this energy to the universe that's saying, I need to control.

Laura Livermore (05:49.036)
your perception of me. And so of course, who are you going to attract is someone who else who also wants to control you. people like narcissists, people who are people pleasers often tend to attract narcissists because the narcissist also wants to control you as a way to feel good about themselves. I need to control everyone else around me in order to feel good.

And the people pleaser is like, I need you to like me. And that's also a way of control. So even though that seems like they're on two separate ends of the spectrum, it's just two different sides of the same coin.

Laura Livermore (06:32.654)
I you're having a mind blowing moment right now. Cause this was mind blowing for me. When you elevate your self worth on a deep level, it's like, I know who I am. I know that I'm worthy just as I am. I don't need anyone else's approval. I don't care what you think about me. I don't need you to like me because I like me. I feel so firm in who I am.

and what I have to offer this world, I don't need your approval. When you elevate your self-worth, you feel so firm in who you are, you're able to set those boundaries with people and you feel confident in who you are and you detach from needing other people's approval. This self-assuredness makes you magnetic to people who respect you and uplift you.

who want to work with you, who want to buy from you, and not try and take advantage of you. So remind yourself that you do not need anyone else's approval. You are good.

Detachment also applies to unfavorable situations. Okay. So you want to stop spending so much time and energy focusing on what isn't working in your life. Whether you're replaying in your head a fight that you had with your spouse or you're spiral spiraling about what you don't have yet.

or you're worrying about worst case scenarios. All of that is you sending your energy towards what you don't want. And what you focus on grows and expands and you attract more of. So the law of detachment, the law of detachment helps you to stop focusing so much on what's not working.

Laura Livermore (08:48.17)
on what you don't have, on the types of situations you don't want to experience. And this is not about ignoring your problems, your real problems in your life. I'm not saying just totally ignore every, all the problems you have, but if you just spend more than 50%, if you just spend 51 % of your energy and your focus on the things that are actually working well,

on believing that your desires are on the way, no matter what, how long it takes, no matter when it arrives or how it shows up, if it shows up differently than what you're expecting, just spend 51 % more of your energy focusing on the things that are going well, on what you have, on what you're grateful for, on what you appreciate. Spend 51%, at least 51 % more of your energy

focused on solutions rather than the problems. In this shift, when you just spend at least 51 % on the positive, you start to build momentum. sending, you're intentionally sending your energy in the direction you want to go. And that allows the flow to start moving in your favor. Okay? So the law of detachment

makes you more magnetic to the people and situations that you do want. One powerful way to ground yourself and help you to trust that you are provided for is by focusing on your root chakra. The root chakra is really all about your sense of stability and your foundation. It's having your basic needs met. And this is deeply rooted

and connected to your nervous system. So healing your root chakra and regulating your nervous system kind of go hand in hand. So some of my most favorite ways to work on that is through meditation, spending more time in nature. So getting outside, sitting in the grass, like go on hikes,

Laura Livermore (11:16.856)
Go swimming in the ocean, go on a walk, taking slow, deep breaths anytime you're feeling anxious or activated. Slow down your breath. And that begins to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, the rest and digest part of your body. And of course, one of my favorites, EFT tapping.

EFT tapping helps release the negative charge of emotions within your body and reprogram positive thoughts and beliefs.

So.

Detachment is not about giving up on your desires. It's really about just releasing the need to control in all areas of your life. Stop trying to control and trust that you are provided for. So I want you to think about this concept like it's like gardening really. When you're gardening, you plant the seed.

for what you want to grow. You bury it deep in the ground, you water it, but you trust that with water, sunlight and time, it's gonna bloom, it's gonna grow. You don't dig it up every day to see if it's growing. No, the law of detachment is like the sunlight that allows your desires to grow. It's like,

Laura Livermore (12:55.234)
You're detached. Okay, I did my part. Now I trust that it's going to do what it needs to do.

So for me, I'll give you another example. Recently, my husband and I were searching for a nanny. It's our first time getting a nanny. And my husband was about to go on a work trip for a couple of weeks. So I really was feeling this pressure to figure it out fast. And this urgency was like putting me in a state of stress. And we had interviewed a bunch of people. And I found one that I got really attached to.

but she had everything I wanted, but her schedule didn't align perfectly with what I thought in my head would be the perfect schedule. And I had convinced myself that she was the only solution. And when I realized that she couldn't do the timeframe that I thought I needed, I felt frustrated and disappointed. And I started noticing myself just spiraling into thoughts like, okay, well, if this doesn't work, like, what am I going to do? And how am I going to...

How am going to make this happen with work? And I just started spiraling and my attachment to it needing to happen in a certain way triggered all of these fears and scarcity. And I gave myself some time to really sit with these emotions instead of ignoring them. And I journaled about what I was feeling and asked myself why I was so resistant to being flexible with the situation.

I had the ability to be flexible with certain days. Why did I need it to happen those specific days? And through reflection, I realized I was clinging to control and doubting that the right solution would come in its own time and needing it to happen in a certain way. And it just, the second that I decided to let go of that, okay, it's got to happen on these specific days.

Laura Livermore (14:57.962)
And in this certain time, I second that I detached from that, I just decided if she's meant to be our nanny, then it will work out. And if not, then there's someone else better on the way that maybe I haven't met yet. And so I just, I let go. I detached myself from that situation. And once I did that, something shifted. Within a couple of days, I

She reached back out and was able to come and it worked out perfectly and everything fell into place. felt lighter, calmer. I was trusting that things would just work out and sure enough, they did. I stopped trying to force the situation and I trusted the process and then things aligned. And I know that this is a practice. It is not always.

as easy to do, but it takes practice. My husband had to remind me of the law of detachment. He had to remind me to let go, to stop trying to force it and just allow things to unfold. And the second I did that, it did. The law of detachment is like

Laura Livermore (16:21.664)
It's like you're in a river and you're floating down the river. But when you're attached to controlling the situation, it's like you're trying to paddle upstream and you're just exhausting yourself. But the second that you let go, you just allow the river to carry you effortlessly to your destination.

And when you're in this energy of, need to control, I need to make things happen, I need to hustle and grind and control every little single situation to make sure it happens exactly the way I want. It's almost like you're chasing a butterfly. Have you ever tried to chase a butterfly? Have you ever tried to grab a butterfly? It flutters away every time. But when you sit still,

When you come near a butterfly and you just relax and you sit still, you radiate this sense of trust and ease and the butterfly floats over to you and lands on your shoulder. It is the most beautiful thing. That is the law of detachment.

Being in this energy of I'm cool, it's okay. I don't need it to happen. I'm relaxed, I'm good.

Laura Livermore (17:44.952)
So how do you practice that? We talked a little bit about those embodiment practices you can do. Just start noticing where you are clinging to control in different areas of your life. Start practicing the energy of trusting. You could ask yourself, what would my life look like if I already had this desire? How would I feel?

How would I show up? How can I embody trust in this moment?

And just remember that focusing on gratitude and appreciation, all the things that are working well starts to send your energy and get the momentum of your energy flowing in the way, in the direction that you want it to go. So focusing on already have enough, I'm already good. I don't need anyone else's approval. I don't need anything to make me happy. I'm good.

I already have so much to be grateful for. And just remember that manifestation is also not about. It's it's not about the things really, it's really more about the feeling you think you're going to get from those things. So instead of attaching to a certain thing or have having a situation happen in a certain way, just focus on the feeling that you think that thing is going to give you focus on.

feeling the joy or the freedom or the love that you're really seeking from that thing. Release your attachment to the specific how and trust that the universe will deliver that feeling.

Laura Livermore (19:43.724)
Affirmations are a great way to get you to start sending your thoughts in the right direction. So you can reprogram your mind through affirmations by just repeating positive, present tense statements that will replace your limiting beliefs with empowering ones. And over time, your subconscious begins to accept those affirmations as truths. And of course, I've said this before on the podcast, but

faster way to do that is also through hypnosis because you're in a deeply relaxed state and the affirmation soak into your subconscious because your brain is in delta brain waves and you're able to like bypass the conscious logical alert thinking part of your brain and go directly to the subconscious. So I love to do hypnosis subliminals, listen to those at night when I sleep.

These are the things I do with my clients and all of my programs and courses and one-on-one, but it's the same thing. It's repeating positive affirmations to your subconscious to trust, trust the timing of your life, trust that everything is always working out for you to truly have that belief that you don't need to control. You don't need to make things happen. Things are always working in your favor.

So your challenge this week is to identify one area in your life where you are feeling attached or like you're trying to control the situation. And ask yourself, why do I feel so strongly about this outcome? What belief or fear is driving my attachment? And then write down one way you can embody trust in that area.

Maybe it's just taking a break from overthinking and affirming to yourself. I trust that everything is working in my favor and for my highest good. All right. If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs the reminder. Don't forget to rate and review the podcast and I will see you in the next episode.